How to Make a Modern Relationship Thrive: 7 Lost Pearls of Relationship Wisdom
This is hands down the best resource for relationship advice for women.
Whatever stage of a relationship you are in, this post will help serve as your guide to finding out how to have the relationship that you want with that special someone. Don’t feel the need to rush through all of these. You’ll miss the gems (or pearls) that are in each article! Bookmark this page then come back to it later.
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Without further ado, here are the articles:
Who is this article for? For those who realize they aren’t giving or receiving attention with their partner like they want...
Our daily habits are so ingrained in us that we don’t really take the time to break them and think outside those habitual actions. The article speaks to the reader as a male, but the message rings loud and clear for both sexes.
It’s about quieting your mind, realizing what you spend your time doing with your significant other, and making sure you are devoting time for communication and letting the heart and mind speak.
Estimated time it takes to read this article: 3 minutes
How Sex Isn’t The Only Form Of Infidelity In Relationships These Days
Who is this article for? Those who are married and feel their relationship isn’t bad but that it isn’t as great as it used to be
I love this article because it explains how the wedding day is not the finish line for a relationship, it’s only the beginning. It’s about how comfort, to an extent, is the enemy in a relationship.
The main takeaways on what to look at in a relationship on a daily basis are:
- How you greet each other
- If you are spending at least two minutes of undivided communication
- If you are spending time thanking each other for kind daily actions.
Our habits can make or break us as individuals, as well as couples. Developing habits that strengthen a relationship early on can give a couple a huge advantage for overcoming any adversity in their life.
Estimated time it takes to read this article: 6 minutes
Three Daily Rituals That Stop Spouses From Taking Each Other for Granted
Who is this article for? To anyone who has been married long enough to have the sparkle fade and wonder what they did wrong.
A bit of a complex read, but it can be worth it.
People throughout world history married for all kinds of reason, few of which was actually out of love. So now, when we fall in love with someone, we feel that marriage is the natural next step.
However, when emotions are high, logic takes a backseat. “Love will find a way” is the common cheer for naysayers. But anyone who has been through a failed relationship can usually look back and see the warning signs and cracks that were apparent from the start.
Emotions also run high when we are lonely and seek out companionship. So marriage feels like we’re able to ‘bottle up’ that amazingness.
So you married the wrong person? Well, read on to find why it doesn’t “really” matter...
Estimated time it takes to read this article: 9 minutes
Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
Who is this article for? To those who feel they are caught in the hook-up, break-up cycle
For a variety of reasons, life as we know it becomes increasingly about finding shortcuts to living easier, quicker. It makes sense then that we could mistakenly apply these things to our love life.
The reality is, there aren’t any shortcuts. It takes work. But hard work is, well, hard... so we give up.
Do we really want to love? Or do we want a thrill? That tiny rush.
When we live in a technological society, we’re always connected. We are instantly gratified with likes, follows, achievements, and other notifications.
Expecting that same gratification in our love life, we get frustrated when we cannot quickly achieve the kind of relationship we want.
Estimated time it takes to read this article: 4 minutes
Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today
Who is this for? For those who want a glimpse at what gives the best result for life-long happiness...
We’re led to believe, especially in America, that if you go after bettering yourself financially and work hard...happiness will follow suit.
Since 1938, Harvard has done a 75-year study of 724 men, asking them tons of questions each year about their life story. The reality is: Research projects like this don’t last long for a variety of reasons, so having this kind of long-term data is incredible.
So what have they found after 75 years of studying? I don’t want to spoil it, let’s just say it’s worth the watch...
“There isn't time -- so brief is life -- for bickerings, apologies, heart burnings, callings to account. there is only time for loving -- & but an instant, so to speak, for that.” - Mark Twain
Estimated time it takes to watch this video: 13 minutes
What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness
Who is this article for? For those who want to know the secret to keeping a relationship from crashing and burning (everyone)
I put this article number one because it’s something I’ve experienced in my own long-standing relationship. Also, it’s just great advice to life your life by and to understand as a whole.
The topic? Unmet expectations.
Derek breaks it down like this:
EXPECTATION - OBSERVATION = FRUSTRATION
He gives a great example in his article, but what it boils down to is NOT lowering your expectations, but to communicate your healthy, realistic expectations.
I will go further to say that, ultimately, it’s lack of communication that is the silent killer of relationships.
When you go into a situation, ANY situation, and your expectations aren’t met, most people get frustrated. What Derek suggests is to set aside those expectations and let reality take the lead, deal with the moment.
After the situation passes, you can then explore why that wasn’t met and deal with it. In other words, don’t let the situation just pass without communicating with your partner about it.
If you take a newlywed couple and have them write down a list of even 10 expectations they have for each other, this becomes clear.
It’s about communicating with each other and understanding what’s expected. You’re a team, after all.
Estimated time it takes to read this article: 5 minutes
The Silent Killer of Relationships
Even though you’ve reached the end of this list, the lessons of love never really end.
I am still searching for what to place in that 7th "pearl of wisdom" slot!
What would you add to this list? What lessons have you discovered that have transformed your love life for the better? What's some relationship advice for women you feel is worth sharing?
Leave me a comment below and I’ll check it out myself.
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